After the Move: How to Meet the Neighbors

So nice to meet you, neigbor!

Hello there! It's so nice to meet you.

By Carolina Pichardo

Now that you’ve moved into your new home, unpacked the boxes and started to settle in by putting everything in its proper place, it’s time to get to know your new neighborhood and meet your new neighbors.

Getting to know your community is very important, especially if your family was upset the second the moving company arrived. Not all your neighbors will be like Mr. Rogers, so take the time to get to know them. Whether they’re noisy, pleasant or always getting into your business, these people will define how happy you’ll be in the years to come.

Although it might be a little difficult to get the process going, it can actually be a lot of fun and a great way to learn about the amenities of your new location. There are several places to begin, such as your child’s school or your local community center, but the Internet and local businesses are also great resources. The main thing is to get out there, make an effort and we promise that you be on your way to having a beautiful day in your new neighborhood.

Start with Family and Friends. If you’re fortunate enough to have family and friends in the neighborhood, then take advantage of that direct connection. These are people that already know the best schools, supermarkets and how to get around the area, so don’t be afraid to pick their brains. This is also a great opportunity to meet their friends, as well as a way for them to show you around in your area. Chances are that they’ll be more than happy to show you the ropes!

Community Events and Publications. Most towns and cities, regardless of size, have a local newspaper or community board available. These provide great events and activities, such as fundraisers, picnics and parent conferences that could help get your search started. Because of the scheduled meetings, forums and contact lists, this is the simplest and most organized way to meet those living in your neighborhood.

Social Networking and the Internet. These days, the Internet makes meeting new neighbors easier than ever. Social networks, such as Facebook, and Twitter, bring together neighborhoods with a common interest, cause and skill. Although joining these requires a more proactive approach (researching groups, participating in forums, etc.), it’s the best way to find local “niche” groups. There is something for everyone, including knitters, actors, writers and Karaoke singers.

Coffee Shops, Bars and Small Businesses. Despite the Internet, coffee shops, bars and even laundromats are still the most effective and best spaces to meet new neighbors. That’s why it’s important to walk around your new community and learn about the businesses that keep it running. These aren’t just resources that you share with others; they’re also the life of your neighborhood. You’ll be surprised at how much you could learn by just waiting in line, enjoying a favorite drink or even finishing several loads of laundry.

Hosting Your Own Party. Often the Internet, community events and newspapers don’t get you the results you want, which means that you’ll have to take the matters into your own hands. If this is the case, then go ahead and have your own soirée, such as a housewarming party. Invite other families, co-workers, and the few people that you’ve already met from your new neighborhood. More than likely, these people will bring along other friends and before you know it, you will have a large network of people under your roof. Usually, all it takes is for you to open your home so that others could do the same.

Give It Time. Like all communities, your new home has an identity and personality of its own. Large cities, for example, have a different beat than the smaller towns. That’s why, regardless of what approach you decide to take, remember that meeting new neighbors does take time. You’ll find that some people are very easy-going and open, while others just aren’t that simple. However, continue to participate and remain vocal in the community, and you will soon be attending children’s birthday parties, school rallies and other cultural events.

  1. Barbara

    Hi. I haven’t moved yet but I am nervous about meeting people since I am over 50, my children are grown, and Seattle is not a small town or even known for it’s friendliness. I do think it is great that a blog like this exists, however.

  2. Sally

    I have moved quite a few times… moving again very soon to a smaller town (10,000 approx)… I have lovely dogs, and have found that walking them around the neighborhood, and talking with people I see, especially if they are in their garden (I am a gardener) helps to get accepted pretty quickly… don’t know if you have dogs barbara, but if you do….I am 66!

  3. Sally

    Bye the way Barbara… I am north of Seattle… Lived in Seattle for 10 years 1989 to 1999, in Wallingford… it was great, but since moving back up here in 2005 I have found it has changed and is less friendly, but still OK… just too big for me, and I love Oregon to which I am moving.

  4. Karen

    Hi Barbara, we’re moving back “home” after not being in that community for the past 16 years. My husband’s a pastor and we’ve had to rent our home to tenants while we’ve lived in a totally different city in the parsonage of our church there. Now, throughout the process of going back and renovating the whole place (I don’t think the gentleman ever cleaner anything and the results of having a smoker live there that long were….let’s say, we had to re-do the entire place) I’ve discovered there’s been HUGE change in the neighborhood as well as the town, and we know NO ONE there any longer. It will be like moving to a *new* town for the first time altogether. My plan is to do the opposite of what people USED to do when someone new came into the neighborhood: they’d welcome you by stopping by with a plate of cookies or loaf of home made bread. After moving back, I intend to kind of watch and scope out who/where I’d like to begin this process with and bring THEM a loaf of home made bread and tell them that we’ve just returned to our home after several years away and wanted to meet neighbors who are new to us. The more I’ve thought about it, the more it seems like a good idea. Also, we have a dog and I’ve found that people with dogs seem to more easily meet other folks with dogs when out walking. I’m hoping this will help, too. Good luck!

  5. Barbara

    Hey Sally,

    I’m moving to Oregon from Oklahoma! I too am over 50 and would like to find out more. I already have family living in the Eugene area so this is where I’ll be settling. I have two adult daughters who is also traveling with me. I hate it out here in Oklahoma and can’t wait for the change but my daughters aren’t so excited and this is all they know. Talk at ya later!

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